Masculinity and Attraction

The quest of males from adolescence to adulthood is to be the best male possible. The paths and challenges are various yet significant to each individual. Whether it’s being the best athlete, the best son or the best man; we all want to be better.

The glaring difference among us is how we get there. Some are lucky and all the pieces fall into place naturally. Others have the advantage of fathers, siblings or other daily role models for guidance. Then there are the rest of us; we are the ones that did what we thought was correct or expected of us. Unfortunately we have had the longest journeys and encountered the most challenges.

The lessons of manhood are not taught in school, books or movies. They are handed down by friends and family or acquired through life experiences. The point is to learn from the lessons and improve your life.

Personally, I never really analyzed masculinity and what it means. I did my best to grow into an average man; learning how to shave, finding styles to compliment my frame, figuring out the opposite sex. I learned how to install auto electronics and eventually repair and customize cars. But it took almost 3 decades before I discovered the essence of masculinity. Learning to take initiative and lead was key. Many females I know have commented on this missing quality in their men. In conjunction with leading, taking a risk was another trait I had to learn. And I don’t mean as in dangerous or risky behavior, I mean opening up to a new career opportunity, a spontaneous vacation or simply trying a new meal. The most important thing I learned is to accept who I am.

My uniqueness is what makes me special, not different. Giving myself permission to be me was
also huge. I stopped trying to be the perfect guy with no flaws..

Masculinity is defined as having qualities traditionally ascribed to men, as strength and boldness. Let’s take a moment to review. How many men did you see today that did not fit the description?

I am willing to bet that the majority of them did not. And it’s not to say that these guys are any less of men in any way. The fact is that most of us have never worked on our masculinity on purpose.

If someone told me 20+ years ago that my masculinity would affect my sense of attraction I would not have believed them. But it is 100% true. The more masculine you are the more attractive you will be. It’s scientific fact that females are drawn to the more masculine males by design. Theoretically it is to guarantee security, survival and strong offspring.

To quote David D: “Attraction is Not a choice”. Being an ass, I have actually told females outright, it’s not your fault you’re into me. “Attraction is not a choice.” And if I am not mistaken each and every one of them agreed.

So learning to be properly masculine and learning how to create attraction are probably the two most important keys to becoming the best Man you can be. Once you have understood and applied it to your life I am sure you will also agree.