How To Argue With a Woman

My boyfriend smokes. I’m not happy about it, but it is what it is and it’s his choice. I know one day when he’s ready he will quit. In the meantime, I want him to go to the doctor to get checked out. He hasn’t been to the doctor in several years and he will be turning 30 this year so it’s important he has a check up. He had already promised me a few weeks ago that he would go to the clinic and get a check up. Three weeks later it hasn’t happened. So last night, I asked him about it.

We have a whiteboard on our fridge for leaving notes for each other. While he was standing there, I wrote on the whiteboard, “Cody needs to go to the doctor.” He started laughing. Instead of nagging him about it, I sidled up to him and said, “I’m not going to take you to the doctor, because I’m not your mother. You’re a grown man and I’m fairly certain you can figure out how to do this on your own.”

He kind of smiled and just said to me, “Yes, as soon as I’m able to take some time off work, I will go.” In response to this I said, “Honey, they’re open 7 days a week.”

His next reasoning was that he didn’t know what their hours of operation were. So, I told him I’d find out and I would write those times on the whiteboard for him.

Then, this came out. “I’m not your mother, so I’m not going to take you there.” He agreed. Then I said, “But I am going to kick your ass until you do go.” And he agreed again. Then, “So you may as well just go and get it done with.” He agreed again.

Then he turned around and started to walk away, laughing. His comment was, “And that ladies and gentleman, is how you argue with a woman.”

I simply started laughing and said, “Especially this one.”

Sometimes women want you to do things and we feel like we’re nagging bitches if we bug you too much about it. A lot of times when we want you to do something it’s because we want an action out of you that shows you care. Even something so simple as taking out the garbage can show us that you love us. Some of the time when we want you to do something it’s because we care about you. In this case, I’m concerned about his health and I want a doctor to check him over so I can sleep easier at night knowing he’ll be around for a long time. But I don’t want to be his mother, and I’m pretty sure that’s not what he wants me to be either.

Because he knows me so well and knows how to handle me, he realizes this and he also realizes that he’ll never get away with NOT going to the doctor. So he just agrees with me and does it. I don’t have to nag. I don’t have to bug him about it. He’ll just go.

So gentlemen, when your woman is asking you to do something and you feel like she’s nagging you; just do it. Don’t make her nag. If you asked her to do something, she probably jumps to it and does it as soon as she possibly can. Show her the same respect and get it done.