Happiness Is Doing What You Love

I don’t know how many times I have gotten frustrated with technology. It’s enough to make me scream. I can be so good at certain things – like navigating Facebook; despite the many and frequent changes they make. I can figure out simple things and make them work and somehow manage to boggle other people with how good I am with computers.

And then I have to talk to my ‘tech stud’ and confirm a login for something for him. And all hell breaks loose. There is nothing like having to deal with something more complicated than a simple Facebook page. He sends over clear instructions and even a video that gives step by step instructions and I still manage to botch the job!

I don’t know how I manage to do it. I lose my cool and start swearing and I can feel the anxiety build. It’s really sad and pathetic to be honest. I’m someone who is known for keeping her cool, being the eye in the storm and not getting stressed out for silly little things. My job has taught me that in the last year. But when it comes to something that I don’t understand on a computer I go into full HATE mode.

It’s not a mood that I enjoy. It stresses me out and stresses everyone around me out. It makes me want to shut down and tell the world to fuck off.

I thank my ‘tech stud’ every day for helping me. Without him you wouldn’t be reading this and I’d be a very unhappy woman.

He keeps me calm. And when it gets really bad; he just steps in and fixes it for me because I’ve lost all capability of rational thought processes. He’s aware of it. Yells through chat skype to STOP and breathe. And then he tells me to go back to what I love doing.

So here I am, one more marble lost in the labyrinth that is my mixed up mind and writing about a struggle I just had with technology. It’s a thank you note to him and a lesson learned for me. Hopefully I can pass that lesson on to you as well. If you don’t LOVE doing something; stop doing it.

It’s that simple.

You will never reach bliss if you constantly force yourself to do the things you absolutely HATE doing. I’m not talking about simple things like doing laundry (although this could easily apply); but I’m talking about complicated tasks, relationships and career paths. Don’t stick with something just because you feel you ‘should.’ Find someone else to do it. Find something better to do for a career that you LOVE. End the relationship and move on.

Stop beating your head against a brick wall. It’s not necessary.

There’s always someone out there who can help you. Don’t be afraid to state the obvious fact that you hate something and you’re miserable. Everyone around you probably already knows that you hate it and they are probably wondering why you keep doing it!

So the next time you find yourself breathing heavy, anxiety just around the corner and panic setting in; STOP and BREATHE.

Do what makes you happy.