5 Types of Nice Guys

Oh yes! Many men identify themselves as a nice guy but don’t know how to break from that label. It is hard to turn an inquisitive eye on one’s self so here is a list of types of nice guys. If any of these descriptions resonate with you then understand you aren’t hopeless. Nice guys have lots of potential to be great partners but they need to learn how to utilize their attraction and become the confident and sexy men that they suppress. So take notice and learn about the different types of nice guys:

1. The People Pleaser/ Pushover

Some people fear public ridicule and some men fear being ridiculed by women specifically. The fear of ridicule causes men to do anything, within their power, to be accepted and liked by women. They will say and do anything for women to notice them or go out with them. The problem: these men start to completely lose their own personalities and become very flat. These men are pushovers and they have no backbone. Women will bend him and break him but they will never fully commit to him. Why? Women won’t commit because he isn’t a challenge. They know he will do anything for them but they don’t feel chased with him. They know they could hook him with just three little words and he will do their bidding forever. Basically, they let women walk all over them.

2. Mama’s Boy

These men just need to cut the umbilical cord and learn to be independent. Men who still rely on their mothers are unable to have a fully healthy relationship with another female. No woman will ever outshine their mother. Men with an oedipus complex have a hard time finding women who are better than their mothers or they end up finding women very similar to their mothers. Either way, distance is key. Grown adult men need to be able to take care of themselves. He may be the sweetest and most caring family man but a Mama’s boy will never be completely satisfied with another woman until he learns to take care of himself.

3. The Genuinely Nice One

These are the men that are absolute sweethearts. Women work with them everyday and they always bring them coffee or lunch. They always ask how their female coworkers are doing and they always super polite. They always remember when it’s their birthday. The genuinely nice ones are seemingly perfect however women don’t tend to be sexually attracted to them. They are almost always friendzoned. The sexual attraction disappears the moment the men direct all their attention to the female. They become like a concerned brother instead of a potential partner. How to fix that? Don’t be afraid to direct the attention back to you. Tell her about something you are working on or something you did over the weekend. Show that you are an interesting and dynamic person otherwise you just become like the people pleaser/ pushover. You can be a nice person and still stand up for what you want. The genuinely nice guy straddles the line between becoming someone to settle down with or being completely pushed aside.

4. The Self- Deprecating One

This is a man with huge self esteem issues. He could be physically perfect or be the perfect catch for any woman but he just doesn’t see it. He constantly puts himself down and doesn’t think he is good enough. It is a dangerous game because he does not allow himself to be happy and confident in any relationship. Self- deprecation puts strain on a relationship and diminishes attraction. No woman wants to be with a man who hates himself. Confidence is so important, and I know everyone says that, but it is true. Confidence in a man is so sexy and men need to accept their flaws and own them. Flaws make you unique and you should love them because they make you who you are. So accept yourself in order for others to enter into your life and accept you too.

5. The Fake One

An interesting specimen, this man seems like the genuinely nice guy but he isn’t. He will tell women anything they want to hear just to get into their pants. These men will take any opportunity to get more experience and have bragging rights amongst their friends. The problem with the fake nice guy is women believe he is “the one” and that they seriously have a chance. However, once the fake nice guy gets what he wants he is gone. This man isn’t looking for a serious connection because he just wants the benefits. Why commit to one woman when you can have fun with many? The issue with these men is they lack any real connection with women. Everything is physical and they suffer the risk of feeling alone and never fully fulfilled.